July 17, 2010
So Ahab went home angry and sullen because of Naboth’s answer. The king went to bed with his face to the wall and refused to eat! (v.4).
READ: 1 Kings 21:1-16
Scanning my e-mail inbox, I stopped in excitement when I saw a particular name. As I opened the e-mail, I held my breath in anticipation of what I would see. Waiting to hear about a manuscript I had sent in, I read through the e-mail quickly looking for the publisher’s response. Disappointment flooded my thoughts, however, when I read the letter. While the assessment had been accurate—the manuscript still needed a lot of work—I couldn’t stop the tears from falling from my eyes. I had significant work to do if I intended to proceed further.
Disappointment is a normal, human reaction to an unmet desire. Proverbs 13:12 says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.” We were intrinsically designed for hope, but living in a fallen world means facing disappointment. What we do with it makes all the difference.
When Ahab didn’t get the vineyard he wanted, his disappointment took over his emotions—and his life (1 Kings 21:4). Mired in his own frustration, Ahab didn’t look to the Lord for his answer. He had a pity party. Furthermore, his disappointment didn’t affect only him. Vineyard owner Naboth paid a dear price (v.13). Anytime we let disappointment rule our emotions and lives, we’re believing that what we want is more important than anything—or anyone—else. God wants to bring good things into our lives. As proof, He has offered Himself as the unfailing hope (Romans 10:11). The problem comes when:
• We think we deserve something.
• We make our happiness dependent on whether we get what we want.
In contrast, God asks that we live a life surrendered to and dependent on Him (Psalm 37:3-5). —Regina Franklin
How can disappointment affect our relationships with others? What disappointment is troubling you?