Comments on: ODJ: spouse for sale http://ymiblogging.org/2010/02/spouse-for-sale/ Daily thoughts for young people, by young people Sun, 12 Feb 2012 05:37:36 +0000 hourly 1 By: Eri Silvanus http://ymiblogging.org/2010/02/spouse-for-sale/comment-page-1/#comment-7789 Eri Silvanus Thu, 11 Feb 2010 04:41:45 +0000 http://ymiblogging.org/?p=5145#comment-7789 Hi Peggy :) For me when someone hurt our heart with their sinful pattern, the real issue is not whether we have to defend ourselves or do we just keep quiet. We have to think the impact for our response, specially in that situation. Is it will make everything better or worse. I remember what apostle Paul says in Rom 12:18 "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." Some times when someone mad, they often used words that wound our heart; and defending ourselves directly at that moment usually will drive the situation become worse for both party. It will not bring "peace" for us nor for them. Because when someone mad they usually want to be listened not debated or argued. That's why when someone mad at us the first response we have to make is accept and listen them. Then evaluate ourselves and after that try find good time to tell to them that we have been thinking about what they said, we thank you for it, but explain to them that the way they expressed their thoughts and emotion were hurting us. This steps of response will bring "peace with everyone." Now some times there are people who really loves to hurt other people with their critical mind and harsh words. They tend to make themselves superior above everyone else by "attacking" other people. These people is always be like thorn in our flesh. They will always criticize, easily to be angry or offended, and think that they are always right. These people will never listen to anybody else except they want something in return. The best way to deal with this kind of people is by following what God said in Lamentation 3:26 (NKJ) "It is good that one should hope and wait quietly For the salvation of the LORD;" and also in Romans 12:19 (NIV) "Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord." The conclusion is, in our daily life some times we have to deal with people who accidentally or worse wounded our heart on purpose. In that situation remember that God have promised: "I will never leave you nor forsake you" (Joshua 1:5 NIV). If we trust Him, we will see that He will always before us, guiding and keep us from all things that might destroy us. For He has said: "I am the gate; whoever enters through me will be saved. He will come in and go out, and find pasture. 10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full." (John 10:9-10 NIV). It's nice to have this discussion with you Peggy. God Bless You. :) Hi Peggy :)
For me when someone hurt our heart with their sinful pattern, the real issue is not whether we have to defend ourselves or do we just keep quiet. We have to think the impact for our response, specially in that situation. Is it will make everything better or worse.

I remember what apostle Paul says in Rom 12:18 “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” Some times when someone mad, they often used words that wound our heart; and defending ourselves directly at that moment usually will drive the situation become worse for both party. It will not bring “peace” for us nor for them. Because when someone mad they usually want to be listened not debated or argued. That’s why when someone mad at us the first response we have to make is accept and listen them. Then evaluate ourselves and after that try find good time to tell to them that we have been thinking about what they said, we thank you for it, but explain to them that the way they expressed their thoughts and emotion were hurting us. This steps of response will bring “peace with everyone.”

Now some times there are people who really loves to hurt other people with their critical mind and harsh words. They tend to make themselves superior above everyone else by “attacking” other people. These people is always be like thorn in our flesh. They will always criticize, easily to be angry or offended, and think that they are always right. These people will never listen to anybody else except they want something in return. The best way to deal with this kind of people is by following what God said in Lamentation 3:26 (NKJ) “It is good that one should hope and wait quietly For the salvation of the LORD;” and also in Romans 12:19 (NIV) “Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.”

The conclusion is, in our daily life some times we have to deal with people who accidentally or worse wounded our heart on purpose. In that situation remember that God have promised: “I will never leave you nor forsake you” (Joshua 1:5 NIV). If we trust Him, we will see that He will always before us, guiding and keep us from all things that might destroy us. For He has said: “I am the gate; whoever enters through me will be saved. He will come in and go out, and find pasture. 10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” (John 10:9-10 NIV).

It’s nice to have this discussion with you Peggy. God Bless You. :)

]]> By: Peggy http://ymiblogging.org/2010/02/spouse-for-sale/comment-page-1/#comment-7775 Peggy Wed, 10 Feb 2010 16:18:07 +0000 http://ymiblogging.org/?p=5145#comment-7775 I was just wondering, how do you actually respond to people who hurt us with their sinful patterns of speech? I mean what should a Christian do? Are we supposed to defend ourselves or do we just keep quiet? I'm not really sure, but I would like to know(: I was just wondering, how do you actually respond to people who hurt us with their sinful patterns of speech? I mean what should a Christian do? Are we supposed to defend ourselves or do we just keep quiet? I’m not really sure, but I would like to know(:

]]> By: Eri Silvanus http://ymiblogging.org/2010/02/spouse-for-sale/comment-page-1/#comment-7755 Eri Silvanus Wed, 10 Feb 2010 02:41:25 +0000 http://ymiblogging.org/?p=5145#comment-7755 Harsh words sometimes came out spontaneously. It's usually driven by our hurt feeling or our high emotion. The best way to control our tongue is by controlling our emotion and don't forget to say "I'm sorry" after we accidentally wound other's heart by our words. God Bless You All ^.^ Harsh words sometimes came out spontaneously. It’s usually driven by our hurt feeling or our high emotion. The best way to control our tongue is by controlling our emotion and don’t forget to say “I’m sorry” after we accidentally wound other’s heart by our words.
God Bless You All ^.^

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